Is it possible to be friends with a guy without falling in love? Can you love a guy just as much as you love your girlfriend without having a crush? Is it ok to hug guys, or should I not even touch them? Am I flirting with so-and-so, or are we just friends?
I am finding it so difficult at the moment with friendships with males. Keeping my emotions in check is not the hard part- the hard part is trying to work out what a friend does, and what someone with a crush does. I am so annoyed when people imagine up a romance between you and a close guy friend that just makes both of you awkward. (But I know I do this too).
I am a bookworm, and I love old books. It was not weird for a girl to love a guy (in a brother-sister relationship) and be as close to him as she would a girlfriend in history. I am not saying that there was no boundaries, there has and always will be boundaries that you just do not cross. But today you cannot talk to a guy without other people looking on and thinking that you are in a romance.
Where did good brother-sister relationships go? What happened to them?
Friendships have changed, and though I wish I was born ten decades ago so I would not worry about it, it is different nowadays. So how on earth do you just be 'just friends'?
I want to open this up for discussion in the comments, I want to see what you all think, what your boundaries are in different-sex relationships. Answer some (or all if you really want to!) of these questions:
Do you think hugging is appropriate?
What is the difference between friends and romance?
What things do you just not do in a brother relationship?
Should we worry about what other people think?
I will answer these questions myself soon.