1 Peter 3:3-4

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewellery or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. - 1 Peter 3:3,4

Tuesday, October 30, 2012

The Void in Their Hearts

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Once, back in the far edges of time, there was a world, a plant. There lived a people on this world. A race that had a hole, a gap in their very beings. Inside of them was a heart, but there was only a black void when it came to love.

These people longed for a relationship, a bond with someone who would fill that void in their hearts. It became there only wish. It was all they wanted, nothing else would compare to being filled. They craved for the ache to go away.

So, that race on that world started searching for love. And it consumed them. It became a crazy obsession- because they realized that without love, they would never be truly happy, and they would die without their life having meant anything.

The inhabitants started writing great stories about the perfect romance. They began to sing songs and ballads about what it would be like, what it would feel like to be in love. They began to script movies couples gazing into each others eyes, about people like them, who had found love.

The women of the species began to try everything to attract love. They dressed, dieted, designed and styled themselves to look like the women in the movies, in the songs and in the stories.

The men began hopping from women to women, looking for the one that would fill their void. They tried to do everything just as the songs had said, but it was always the wrong person.

Everytime a man and woman found eachother, they would think that they had finally found 'the one'. A time of blissfulness would follow, but each and everytime it would only fall apart. Because they would look within themselves and realize, they still had the void in their hearts.

The world lived on. It became complicated and depressed. The beings started killing themselves- the ache became to great for them, and they gave up.
They all believed there was no hope.

Yet, Faithful Love sat but a call away. He was the god, the creator of the world. He was the piece of the puzzel that was missing. He was what they all longed for.
Did he just stand there, and watch them slowly discourage themselves?

No, he reached down to help. He showed them that he was love. He called them, and told them that he would fill their void. He asked for them to give themselves to him.

But they were so busy searching for 'the One', that they missed him completly. They did not see him. Whilst searching for love, they missed it entirely.

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Do no put your trust in princes,
Nor in a son of man
In whom there is no help.
~ Psalms 146:3
Written by Meggie. Copyright 2012. Do not copy, protected by copyscape.


Thursday, October 25, 2012

What message are you sending?

Just a quick challenge...

Have you made anyone smile today? Have you brightened anyones life?

Have you preached the gospel through all of your actions today?

Preach the gospel at all times, and if necessary use words.
Yes, I have made someone smile today.
Let God search me and know my ways, to see if I have. I cannot judge.

Monday, October 15, 2012

'Just Friends'- the responses

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So, it sounds like we all agree that it is better not to hug our guy friends, but if we do, that we should be careful about it. I want to share an expierence with you all that has shaped my thinking on this subject.

I have grown up homeschooled, and in the last few years, have not had many relationships with guys my own age, and even if I had they have not been very close. Anyways, at my workplace, I worked with a guy whom I enjoyed joking around with. He is not a Christian. Anyway, I got closer to him than I had to any guy I had with before. I got excited. I finally knew a guy well, that I thought I could hang out with and really get to know. Of course, I would reason, we are 'just friends'. I started looking forward to seeing him. I started hugging him when I said hello and goodbye. I could not get him out of my thoughts. Then, another person I worked with made the comment that I was flirting with him, instead of just normal joking around. That shook me awake.

Was I really flirting? Surely not, we were 'just friends' after all, I said to myself as I hugged him again. I got home that night, and God broke through and opened my eyes. I realized how much I fantasized about him, how much I was leading him on. I fell on my face towards God. How could I have been so foolish? So stupid? How did I not see it? I had all these lofty ideas about dating and marriage, and then I had gone and given my heart away.

Thats when I started looking for answers. I went to my Nan and asked her what she thought about it, and my Nan told me that, honestly, she felt uncomfortable when she hugged other men.

Now, with other 'brother and sister' relationships, I have realized where I went wrong, and what not to do with the other relationships I have.

1) Do you think hugging is appropriate?
I do not think hugging is appropriate. There are some situations where it is natural in a brother-sister relationship, but that only happens once in a blue moon. Like Taleisha said, she was moving overseas, and when she said goodbye, her guy friends closest to her she hugged goodbye. But these situations are really quite rare, look at what your attitude is, what your thoughts are. Why are you doing it? Would it give the wrong impression to the guy? I liked what Moriah said, that if we think that that guy is someone elses husband, I think that would help a lot.

2) What is the difference between friends and romance?
Friends let each other know how their feeling. They carry each others burdens. They pray for each other. They are always there for each other. They are always guarding each others purity.
In romance, they cannot stop thinking about each other. They are always wondering what the other is doing. They play over in their mind the last time they saw that person. They hold hands. They open up to each other more than they need to.

3) What things do you not do in a brother relationship?
You dont flirt. You make sure you restrict all physical touch.

4) Should we worry about what other people think?
This one made me really think. I think Moriah is right. Whatever people think, we should hold it up and ask us if there is truth in it. And ask, is it just gossip, or is it the truth? Is the person saying it worthy to be listened to?

So, I have more questions for discussion.

What is the best bit of advice you have recieved for this?
How do you stop your thoughts from becoming obsessive?


Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Guy Friendships?

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 Is it possible to be friends with a guy without falling in love? Can you love a guy just as much as you love your girlfriend without having a crush? Is it ok to hug guys, or should I not even touch them? Am I flirting with so-and-so, or are we just friends?

I am finding it so difficult at the moment with friendships with males. Keeping my emotions in check is not the hard part- the hard part is trying to work out what a friend does, and what someone with a crush does. I am so annoyed when people imagine up a romance between you and a close guy friend that just makes both of you awkward. (But I know I do this too).

I am a bookworm, and I love old books. It was not weird for a girl to love a guy (in a brother-sister relationship) and be as close to him as she would a girlfriend in history. I am not saying that there was no boundaries, there has and always will be boundaries that you just do not cross. But today you cannot talk to a guy without other people looking on and thinking that you are in a romance.

Where did good brother-sister relationships go? What happened to them?

Friendships have changed, and though I wish I was born ten decades ago so I would not worry about it, it is different nowadays. So how on earth do you just be 'just friends'?

I want to open this up for discussion in the comments, I want to see what you all think, what your boundaries are in different-sex relationships. Answer some (or all if you really want to!)  of these questions:

Do you think hugging is appropriate?
What is the difference between friends and romance?
What things do you just not do in a brother relationship?
Should we worry about what other people think?

I will answer these questions myself soon.