tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816076125701445142.post1800591202607416992..comments2023-10-19T09:27:40.272-07:00Comments on Unfading Elegance: 'Just Friends'- the responsesMeggiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10432568599192708113noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816076125701445142.post-16135386083392217912012-10-18T02:32:23.998-07:002012-10-18T02:32:23.998-07:00Yes, but we need to remember, that actually, we ar...Yes, but we need to remember, that actually, we are sinful. We are going to fail, we are going to think stuff and do stuff are soo wrong. <br /><br />We need to do this with Christ, and the most important thing is asking Him to guard our minds and change us so that we dont think it. That is the only way it will happen. God is victory. <br /><br />I am not saying that this condones making mistakes, it doesnt. It is all our fault when we mess up. It is us that makes those decisions, no one else, but we need to recognize that we cant do it without God. We are sinful. We will fail, but in God we can have victory. <br /><br />Love you Taleisha,<br />MeggieMeggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10432568599192708113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816076125701445142.post-73836237267166010302012-10-16T20:19:32.130-07:002012-10-16T20:19:32.130-07:00When I was faced with this my dad told me that it&...When I was faced with this my dad told me that it's best not to. It's so much better to have a safe, and still enjoyable and great, friendship with a guy without bringing in hugs and making things more complicated then they need to be. Something I would absolutely hate would be if in my mind I thought it was harmless to hug a guy, but then to be giving him the wrong impression. <br />Guys are different to us and can really read into things the wrong way. It could really jeopardise a friendship if the girl thinks everything is fine, but they have slowly been helping the guy develop a crush on them. <br />For me right now I'm only looking for friendships with guys and I think the friendship could be completely turned upside down if I found out that a guy I consider a 'brother figure' was developing feelings for me. I would feel guilty and I don't think that the friendship would be able to go back to exactly how it was before. It's just better to be safe then to be sorry. My friendships are too valuable to me to worry about complicating things with something as small and 'harmless' as a hug. <br /><br />As for the obsessive thoughts, I 100 percent believe that we can choose what we feel and if we are going to obsess over something. We can either let our minds wonder off and think about the 'what could be' and what if's, or we can address them as a problem that could lead to impurity in our emotions, and do something about it before they become consuming and in our thoughts 24/7. <br />I believe that we can stop these thoughts and obsessions. Firstly, when these thoughts come into your head to do something about it. Go listen to Christian music, read your Bible, talk to a friend, find what works for you. The outcome of your obsession will entirely depend on how you dealt with it and how you tried to control it. It will also depend on how consistent you are in identifying and addressing it. <br /><br />Ultimately, if our hearts are in the right place, we shouldn't have to worry about things becoming obsessive. <br /><br />Hope this helps, <br />Taleisha Taleishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14084437119380154655noreply@blogger.com